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Six Practical Steps to Build Your Self-Esteem

Six practical, everyday steps to build your self-esteem — from stopping negative self-talk to treating yourself like someone you love.

Mary L. BondiLMHC, CHT 1 min read
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  1. Stop putting yourself down to other people and yourself. You may want to keep a journal of how your negative self-talk is for one week. You may be surprised to notice you are not treating yourself in a loving manner. When you catch yourself doing this STOP and see a stop sign in your mind, the colors of the red background, the white letters and the shape of the sign. Say to yourself. “That is the old me, OMG, I used to be sooooo negative.” This is extremely helpful
  2. Schedule pleasant events and activities. Meet up with a friend for lunch, a walk on the beach. Make art. Take a class you have been wanting to take. Plan a vacation. Do something FUN.
  3. Exercise daily. A walk around the block, go to the gym, play tennis whatever you enjoy. People who exercise a few times a week enjoy a greater sense of self-value. Your body was designed for movement. Find some physical activity that you enjoy and do it regularly.
  4. Get back in touch with your passion. Get involved in creating your dream life. Our mind is always giving us new ideas. Listen and pay attention.
  5. We take care of what we love. Start treating yourself like someone you love.
  6. Be kind to yourself, you deserve it.

Good luck on your journey!

Mary L. Bondi

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Mary L. Bondi, LMHC, CHT

Licensed mental health counselor, EMDR therapist and clinical hypnotherapist in Fort Lauderdale for 30 years, specializing in holistic mind-body-spirit healing.

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I am a licensed mental health counselor/therapist and life-coach in Fort Lauderdale. I am also an EMDR therapist in Fort Lauderdale and offer hypnotherapy and other holistic healing modalities.

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