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Personal Empowerment

Personal empowerment: the basics. Why real empowerment is built from within, day by day, by correcting one negative habit at a time.

Mary L. BondiLMHC, CHT 2 min read
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Personal Empowerment: The Basics

Personal Empowerment is something that all of us chase, at least to some degree and to some extent. And yet, many people fail to understand what the concept really means. Many people chase personal empowerment from the outside. They read books, they attend classes, and they seek out people who make them feel better about themselves.

All of these activities are certainly positive and worthwhile—but maybe it’s time to start looking at what personal empowerment really means.

To truly find empowerment, you need to develop it within yourself. This, unfortunately, isn’t achieved in a monumental, profound moment of enlightenment or a miraculous healing event—but rather, is something that we live and demonstrate on a day-to-day basis. It’s a process that takes time, dedication, hard work, and devotion.

The biggest challenge that we all face, when it comes to finding our own sense of empowerment and self-worth, is that we’re usually habitual in our self-judgement and self-criticism. We reject ourselves out of habit, not because we have real, rational reasons to do so.

Please don’t misunderstand—self-doubt and self-criticism aren’t always so easily explained. Sometimes, these issues are very deep-seated and complicated. But in the words of the famous Sean Covey, “we become what we repeatedly do.”

If you make an effort to live an empowered life, and wake up every morning with a sense of intentionality and dedication concerning this goal, then you’ll find yourself much more likely to be successful.

The hard, cold truth is that self-empowerment really needs to be self-taught—and we can only teach it to ourselves by becoming what we wish to be. This means that you need to visualize the ‘you’ that you wish to be one day—and then create that person with your words and actions.

This doesn’t mean that you pretend to be something you’re not. It means that you habitually correct one negative behavior at a time, until the process becomes automatic. And when this happens, you’ll realize that the change wasn’t an act. It was real, genuine, and effective.

Mary L. Bondi

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Mary L. Bondi, LMHC, CHT

Licensed mental health counselor, EMDR therapist and clinical hypnotherapist in Fort Lauderdale for 30 years, specializing in holistic mind-body-spirit healing.

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I am a licensed mental health counselor/therapist and life-coach in Fort Lauderdale. I am also an EMDR therapist in Fort Lauderdale and offer hypnotherapy and other holistic healing modalities.

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